Have you ever

Have you ever felt that in the stillness of the outside world, there is your own sense of peace and happiness which fills the air, the earth and the water within you with joy?
Have you ever felt that this moment is all there is to be awakened into a beautiful future which you can carve only with the tools available right now. At this moment.
By not asking any questions you are closer to the answers than ever. By just letting it go, you are where you always have wanted to be.
Have you ever wondered why those moments of completeness are so few, why we tend to limit our boundless possibilities by neophobia?
Perhaps our biological journey has not yet equipped us with the wisdom of acceptance. Evolution has rendered us too reckless, too aggressive and egoistic. And we are not able to be larger than our short and limited lives.
But today, at this precious second I love everything and everyone forever

Comfort zone and competitive edge

Essentially you do not have to read any of the books about other people who have found a recipe to solve their life puzzle. You do not have to listen to me either. All you need  to work out things in your life is yourself. All the answers about what is right or wrong to you, are already there within you. But for some reason you have not had time or wish to listen. Or other insecure people around you have confused you and your parents have told you things about life which have puzzled you and taken away your self-confidence. So at the time when the answers to your questions floated up from your subconscsiousness, you pressed them back. And by doing this you actually were disrespectful to yourself. Like we all are. Oftentimes.

Respect is a tricky things. Even though we all crave for it and expect it from others, we do not give it back. We lack respect at home as parents, at work as employees or managers and at school or at home as children. How often have you really treated ourself and others with respect? Think about all those times when you felt sorry for yourself. Think about all those times when you felt that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Those where the times which were the outcome of lack of respect to your own real needs. And only you know why you neglected them in the first place and ended up in this mess.

Only you can change your own life. But in order to change you have to start listening to yourself. And not just that. The crux is that you have to dare. When you finally have picked up the message which your body or mind have desperately been trying to convey you (stop worrying, do not eat this food, give yoursef a stretch after a long day behind the computer, etc), you have to take action too. But if you are of a careful and contemplative type, it may seem that making compromises with your conscience is actually better than making a radical decision to change.  It is good to lie to yourself, you may think. It keeps you in the comfortable range of already familiar suffering. Human body and mind are capable of lying and telling you that yes, the formula works even when it sucks. All for the sake of survival. Which comes at a cost, though. Like everything in life.

So, what I am saying is that being honest to oneself can sometmes go against our nature although we believe the opposite. But it is an illusion. We were never biologically constucted to die in the arms of a pray  who we had been incapable of outsmarting. We developed our big brains and they have both the dark and the light side. The light side is that we have autonomous nervous system – while I am writing this, my brain is engaged in letting my fingers work, to relax and contract multiple muscles at the same time and adjust against the gravitational pull so that the intended typing gets done.

Autonomous nerve system controls many of our bodily functions – digesting, blinking, heartbeat just to name a few. We would be utterly occupied with orienting in the maze of our bodily needs without the peripheral nervous system. But our bodies ares not constructed to tell us the truth – this is never the idea – our bodies usually tell us what is the most beneficial thing to do in order to survive. And without blinking an eye, we will opt for being dishonest even in the part of the mind which we control voluntarily. Because cheating will give us a competitive edge. Which brings us to the dark side – the voluntary nervous system which unfortunately does not work as efficiently when it comes to linking the survival instinct with complicate daily routines and interactions. As soon as we let our volition to rule, as soon as we are damn sure that we know, we are very close to losing the balance. Nature’s constructions are not intended to be perfect. We have a very limited capability to protect ourselves from acting irrationable.

So. How do solve your life puzzle? Stay rationable when your mind tricks you to to being irrationable, lose balance when your body is making an effort to keep homeostasis, and fight against the flight-and-fight instinct when it is not the matter of life and death but just a prosaic moment from an ordinady day at work.

There is no secret recepe. I have none. There is no punchline. Please start reading again from the beginning.

Kairi

I want to say something

I want to say something
I do not know exactly what
I am fumbling for the right words
Like a blind man who senses but does not see
My heart is restless
And my mind is busy as if
I were trapped in a tunnel without a light and no knowledge how to get out
I want to say that I am lost but feeling closer to being found than ever
I want to tell that I am stressed but yet more in control of my feelings and aware of my body than ever
I understand the things that I have never understood
I see goodness growing out of honesty and hatred growing out of fear
I see us denying ever so often the things that we should hold dear:
Truthfulness, respect, consistency, love and acceptance
I have made peace with myself, hopefully for good
It is important not to get lost in the glamour of delusion – an unfaithful and flirty companion whose superficial allure is sometimes irresistible.
The most important thing is to dare to be me.

Kairi

Yoga

When the flight turns out to be
a return to oneness
when the attack transforms
into a surrender to stillness
when fluctuations of mind
disappear by inner calmness
when the light is intertwined
with brother darkness
when destroyal emerges
in creating something new
when  the filthy is washed
to become clean and pure
when questions are posed
and get answered at once
when singularity comprises
everything but one
when being attached
means letting go
when life is no more
than pure energy flow
when all that matters
is here and now
you have mastered in yoga
and given the vow.

Kairi